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Lost and Found

2009-11-14T00:15:00.000-08:00

Sometimes, I get lost in all the noise. I've always been that way. I'm always seeking the approval of others. I've been that way since I was very young.

I went through a period of time when I believed wholeheartedly that my identity was in Christ and I didn't need anything more than that.

I lost that for a long time. And sometimes, when everything else gets so loud, I have to quiet things down to hear Him. I have to quiet things down to hear myself. And to remember who I am and what I'm doing.

That's why I've gone through chunks of time recently where I haven't wanted to post here. I kind of lost my will to do it. Mostly because I couldn't remember why I was doing it.

I even toyed with doing an anonymous blog so I could write what was truly on my heart. But then a light bulb went on. When I wrote my first post in 2004, (five years ago this month)I had NO clue what I was doing. It never occurred to me that anyone would read it. Never.

But I loved blogging then. It hit me that if I can't write here what I would write on an anonymous blog, than I've got to fix the real issue. And for me that was seeking the approval of others. I don't need to do that. So I'm not going to.

I'm going to do what I need to do. Even if that means I end up writing for an "audience of One."

Why is there a dead Pakistani on my couch?

2009-11-13T22:37:00.000-08:00

I just read The Bloggess' recent post, here. I love Jenny The Bloggess. Like really love her. She makes me laugh. And feel normal. Plus, I sometimes wish I could write so freely about stabbing people just like she does. Haha.

So of course I played along and did what she said to do on her blog. I opened up a tab in Google Chrome, went to Google and then typed "why" in the search window.

Google's handy dandy auto complete function kicked in with some rather funny searches. But it's the one highlighted in the screen shot below that really made me laugh. HARD.

Because honestly, I was wondering why there was a dead pakistani on my couch too:

Although close behind the dead Pakistani issue (which you have to admit, is a HUGE concern) is the "why did i get married?" I mean, really? You went to Google to figure out why you got married. I did actually click on that though and apparently there is a Tyler Perry movie by that title. So perhaps that's why it's such a popular search?

But then, also following The Bloggess' command, I then typed "why not," into the search window. While I'm curious about why someone would want to know why their parakeet is not consuming, well, never mind, I find it pretty dang funny that so many people are asking the great Google answer gods about Limewire:

Limewire, for those of you who obey the law, is a file sharing program that allows you to uploaded songs, movies, images, etc. and share with whomever would like to download the file. In other words, Limewire is a way to illegally obtain free music. Nice. I love that so many people turn to Google when their illegal software doesn't work.

I haven't written a post about Google in ages. In fact, I don't even know if my old Google posts ever mad it over when I combined blogs. I heart Google. This is a perfect example of why! Endless hours of entertainment for those (like me) who have no life. ;)

How about a little decency?

2009-11-11T12:17:00.000-08:00

Photo by: Alana Elliott

Yesterday on my way to work, my car quit. It quit in rush hour traffic, at the bottom of a hill. A hill that happens to be the off ramp for the 15 freeway in Temecula.

Needless to say, there were a ton of cars around. My car stalled inches from a big intersection. My car was dead. Dead. Dead. I turned on my hazard lights.

The lady behind me became quite indignant about my stalled state. My first thought, after "Oh holy crap what am I going to do?!" was, "Lady, if you had not pulled up so close behind me in the first place you would have been able to slip around me."

But after I thought that, I started to cry. And then I was shaking. Why? Because people were honking and yelling at me. Some of them were pulling around me so fast -- gunning the gas -- tires a screechin' an all as if to say, "F U lady!"

All the while I sat there. Not a soul stopped to help me. Not a soul that pulled up next to me in traffic, at the red lights, looked at me. They wouldn't make eye contact. No one rolled down there window to ask if I was alright. Not a soul.

I suppose I'm most annoyed with the Marine, with his DoD decal and his USMC sticker on the back who did make eye contact with me in my Marines hat. I could see he contemplated doing something. But then he drove on. Come on, Marine. I thought you'd at least help.

When I had a flat tire and sat on the side of a busy road in NC, I had multiple cars stop. One guy decided he would stay until Walter, our office manager, arrived to help me. He just stayed there and waited with me. This was in morning rush hour traffic by the way.

But no one helped yesterday. California, I'm so ashamed of you. But I can't say I'm surprised based on the way I see people behaving here -- whether in traffic or not. It's shameful. Not even an "Are you okay?" I know it was rush hour. But would it have been so hard to even have asked if I needed anything? Would it have been so hard for someone to help me get my car to the Taco Bell parking lot, not too far from the intersection?

I sat there and waited for the tow truck to arrive. Thankfully, he was a nice guy. My car was towed and I heard the damage this morning. I need a new alternator. But what I feel today, more than the frustration over a car repair I can't afford, is disappointment.

No really. What happened to the most basic of neighborly acts? Did I look dangerous in my Ford Focus with the yellow ribbon magnet? Was it going to cost someone money to make eye contact and ask how I was? Was it really going to take so long to help me get out of the road, where I blocked traffic, that your trip home would have been so drastically altered?

Have we really become a country where we care so little for others? Or is it just California? I think that's probably more accurate. It really makes me sad that people are so unkind -- so focused on self. It's not just about me. Those same people honking and yelling at me would have done that to anyone else stuck in my predicament.

But really? Are we really so busy and so important that we can't stop and check on a person in need? I wouldn't feel the same way if someone had at least asked if I was okay. The first person to do that was the wrecker driver who said, the second I got out of my car, "Are you okay?"

I said, "No." He helped me into his truck and then went to work.

I have grown more and more upset by the tone of things on the Internet. I have found myself frustrated by the way people behave towards others in traffic, or how people treat others in service professions or how customers are treated by rude staff.

I find myself wishing for a simpler time. I find myself wishing I lived in an era where it was more common for people take a "No, you first," approach to life. Yeah, it was like that at some point in our history. Because it's still like that in places around this great country.

Which is why I'm going back to a place where the big story is the Muffler Man being stolen from in front of Smith's Auto as opposed to all the murders and golly gee, how exciting Oprah is in town (who cares?) and ridiculously long "reports" from George Pennacchio on Channel 7 about Dancing with the Stars.

I'm pretty sure I was made to live in the Boondocks. I like the way they define a neighbor. And I like how they treat their neighbors.

That's what she said.

2009-11-10T01:41:00.000-08:00

Weird that I feel a sudden urge to write here tonight (or rather this morning). It's late. I'm sick. I'm tired. And I've written all day long. What in the heck is wrong with me? Wait. Don't answer that.

So here I am. I suppose I feel the need to provide a brief synopsis of what has happened since my recent post where I literally and figuratively threw my hands in the air.

Here's how it went.

1. Girl made plans to go back to school in NC.

2. Life threw curve ball at girl.

3. Curve ball, from left field, scared the buh-jeebers out of girl and left her feeling fuh-reaked out about what came next.

4. Aforementioned curve ball looked as though there would be no way in H-E-L-L girl would get to go back to school anytime soon. This compounded the already large and looming deadline of needing to be out of her current living situation by December of 2009 (in other words...can you say homeless?).

5. Enter throw hands up cross roads. This is the point where girl (that would be me in case you forgot) says, "Okay. Whatever Dude. Whatever you want, I'll do."

6. Girl meant that sincerely. She just wanted a little guidance and direction already. She really was ready to do whatever it took. Her junior high youth pastor should be proud (NMWIT*).

7. Girl met with a wise lady from a nearby church.

8. Wise Lady confirmed everything girl already knew. No matter what . . . the Dude abides. The Dude. And He would guide and direct as needed. Wise Lady encouraged girl to take each day as it comes -- one tiny step at a time. "Today is all you have," she said. Girls sees picture of Bob in the movie What About Bob? Baby steps. It's all about the baby steps.

9. Wise Lady was right on. Today is all we have became the new motto for the girl. And she's pretty sure that's what another she said a long time ago.

10. Girl gets home from meeting and gets call for job interview.

11. Girl goes on job interview. Gets part time job. While still on interview.

12. Girl now goes back to step one. She can go to NC in December. As.Originally.Planned.

So yeah. At the end of my rope and literally (I am not kidding folks), ready to lose my car and sleep on a cot at a rescue mission somewhere if necessary, God provided me a part time job. I have been trying for NINE months to get anything. Something. And right at the last possible moment, a job appeared.

And not just any job. But one where I can help a Marine Corps family. Yep. I'm helping out a Marine Corps family (and really, if you ask me, it was a pretty dang big miracle we even found each other) with a big need. So...part time these days, I'm hanging out with six very cute, smart, funny and very busy kids. All the while, I'm getting to do what I wanted to do anyway (taking care of Marine Corps families). Just in a way I didn't intend or expect.

That's what so funny about life. And that's what's so funny about God. He's not really worried about doing things in our timing or within our expectations. Maybe you don't even believe in God at all?** I can't say I blame you, if you don't. I know. Christians aren't supposed to say crap like that.

But I'm going to agree with you. It's tough to take a leap of faith to believe in the unseen. That's a gynormous understatement actually. It's incredibly difficult to trust what is unseen.The thing is, He's all around us if we would get ourselves the heck out of the way to see Him. When we do, beautiful things happen.

Unknowns still abound. But I know now that He is here. And He's answering prayer. And He is good. And right now, that is what I know. And right now is all I have.

Its taken me six long years to get that lesson through my very, very thick skull.

* NMWIT takes stands for No matter what it takes - I'll follow Christ. I learned that in junior high. I just forgot.

** Part of the changes that will be taking place here is that I will not be shying away from talk about my faith which I have done in many ways over recent years. So yeah.

NaNoWriMo

2009-11-08T00:01:00.000-08:00

I am still trying to formulate a plan for this here blog. But I probably won't have a fully formed plan for what I'm doing here because for the month of November, I'm participating in "National Novel Writing Month" (NaNoWriMo). The goal of NaNoWriMo? To write a 50,000 word novel by November 30th.

My focus is on doing just that. I've bitten off quite a lot for the month of November. So yeah. The purpose of this blog is not any clearer to me. But I am proud of myself for trying this out. And I'm going to finish. So there. Below is a video made my several novelists, who, between them have written 200+ books.

They are: Angela Hunt, Kristin Billerbeck, Terri Blackstock & Robin Lee Hatcher. I'm posting the video because it's cute. And I resemble this video:

See you all later!

Happy Birthday, Marines!

2009-11-07T00:09:00.000-08:00

In honor of the upcoming Marine Corps Birthday on 10 November, I wanted to say . . . Happy Birthday, Marines!

Last year at this time, I was at the ball for II MEF at Camp Lejeune, NC with my boyfriend, Ray. It was a really awesome night and I loved every second of the experience.

A lot of people talk about how lame it is to go to a ball at the Goettge Field House (which is basically a gym) aboard Lejeune. I however, loved everything about that night.

We may not have been at a nice hotel. Or in Myrtle Beach or at the Sheraton in New Bern as so many other units celebrate in those places, but it was definitely an experience I will never forget because of the symbolism (and of course my date) and all the pomp and circumstance.

As Marines all over the world celebrate the 234th birthday of the Corps, I just want to say thank you for all that you do that goes unseen as well as the great sacrifices you make on a constant basis that is seen.

It was truly an honor and the highlight of, well, anything I've done to serve you and your families in my own small way.

This blog...

2009-10-28T15:23:00.000-07:00

is going dark for awhile. It has become something I never intended. I started this blog in 2004. What it is today is not what I meant for it.

I've listened to too many other people tell me in one way or another, what it should be -- what I should be. And between that and my own search for answers, I don't know what I want for this place anymore.

So until further notice, I won't post here.

I'll still be doing my Project 365 and my will also post at my Wordpress blog as I read through the Bible this year.

Peace,
elaina

My hands are up. I surrender.

2009-10-28T15:07:00.000-07:00

I finally made some important decisions recently about what comes next for me and have watched as they too have been thwarted. So I've given up.

If I need to lose my car and a place to live and live in a shack in Arkansas, I will. If I need to go to India, I will. If I need to go to Africa...I will. If I need to reserve a comfy cot at the Rescue Mission in L.A., sure. I'll do it.

I give up. I don't have the energy to figure it out. So God will just have to have to drop off, at my front door, what He wants. Literally or figuratively. I'm done making guesses.

I'm done making decisions that seem wise or the most financially sound or whatever. I give up. Whatever God wants, that's what God gets. Alaska? Sure. Garbage collector? Sure. Whatever.

The truth is, I'm tired. I don't care anymore because wanting what I want and not getting it has worn me clean out. And I can now accept that I'm just not that girl. So I lay down all the dreams.

I lay down all the "pictures" in my head of what my life should be. I lay down all of the plans. I lay it all down. I can't bear the disappointment. And I certainly don't know what He wants from me. So I give up.

Everything I have ever done has been in search of what I never had and never will. And I'm so tired. So, I surrender.

Project 365

2009-10-28T14:49:00.000-07:00

Is it really necessary to sell Christmas decorations before we've even gotten through Halloween? Seriously. It's not even Halloween yet?

You can see all my Project 365 stuff, here: http://www.flickr.com/photos/elainamarie/ I update that every day to every couple of days. And will continue to do so.

And a new post . . .

2009-10-24T22:26:00.001-07:00

at finding my way: a journey of faith: http://findingherwayback.wordpress.com/

Remember (15 September - 22 October)

2009-10-24T22:11:00.001-07:00

http://remembertheircourage.blogspot.com/

They Came In Peace...

2009-10-24T00:31:00.000-07:00

On Sunday, October 23, 1983, a group called the Islamic Jihad, bombed barracks in Beirut, Lebanon. They killed 299 servicemen. 221 of those were Marines and Corpsmen from Camp Lejeune, NC.

It was the "single largest non-nuclear explosion on earth, since WWII." If you watch, this video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IfucAawxwbI until the 3:41 mark, you'll see just what kind of devestation was wrought while these young men slept in their beds.

Our servicemen were sent there by request of the government of Lebanon. They were called there to help keep the peace and protect innocent lives. I've said before and I'll say again that this "War on Terror" was not started by George W. Bush. It wasn't even started by Al-Qaeda as we know it today.

It didn't begin on September 11th, 2001. It began in 1983. And perhaps even further back than that. I went to the memorial in Jacksonville, NC for the first time in 2006. It was a cold, spring morning. Grey. Dark. It almost felt like snow, it was that cold.

I sat on a bench and just thought for the longest time about men and women like these 221 that continued to serve. That continued to place themselves in harms way, even at that very moment. And I was thankful. I am thankful. And I won't forget. I won't forget who has gone before. I won't forget those I know that gave the ultimate sacrifice. And I won't forget those who serve now.

To read an incredibly well written analysis about this region of the world, from someone who lived there, I recommend Thomas Friedman's "From to Beirut to Jerusalem." To see the rest of my photos of the Beirut Memorial in Jacksonville, NC, you can go here: http://www.flickr.com/photos/elainamarie/3230564088/.

Grandma 365/11

2009-10-23T13:55:00.001-07:00

Project 365/11

This is a photo I took of my Grandma on 10/22. I took a lot of photos but I couldn’t quite get her to “cooperate.” In every photo she’s looking away, closing her eyes or something similar. So this is what I ended up with. :)

As I’ve mentioned before, my Grandma has Alzheimer’s Disease. But she’s doing fairly well right now for which I’m thankful for. She’s so funny. She always has been if you ask me. But now? She has no filter and says whatever pops in her head. Yesterday she said, “Life sucks sometimes.” Ha! She’s totally right.

One of the hilarious stories we’ve reminisced about lately is the time when me, my brother, our cousin were being babysat by Grandma (a regular occurrence). We were bugging Grandma. All. Day. Long. She wanted a moment of peace and quiet.

So she went out on the porch and hopped on her stationary bike. The porch had large, picture windows. This meant that we could see her the whole time. So true to form, we began antagonizing her by knocking on the window.

She told us to stop. A bunch of times. But we were being stinkers. And thought it was funny. So we kept knocking. When she couldn’t take it anymore, my Grandma turned around and flipped the three of us off. She. Flipped. Us. Off.

We were probably between the ages of 7 and 10. If that! The three of us lost it. We couldn’t believe she did it. Within a short amount of time, my Aunt Janet got to the house to pick up my cousin Marisa. We recounted the whole story. To which she replied, “She DID NOT do that!” To which we replied, “Yeah she did. Watch.”

So we proceeded to knock on the window. Over and over until she turned around and flipped us off again. Obviously . . . Aunt Janet believed us then. Hahaha! That’s my Grandma for ya. I’ve got so many memories of her that are just as funny or awesome. She’s a great lady!!

You can see the rest of my Project 365 photos, here: http://www.flickr.com/photos/elainamarie/

Mini blogger meltdown averted...

2009-10-22T10:11:00.000-07:00

So I'm not sure what happened last night with Blogger but it took some major coaxing and pulling out HTML from my short story to get it to republish. Which...it finally did. Why that particular HTML was in the post I have no idea. And it kind of freaked me out a little. Once I removed those four or five lines and hit publish post, it was again available. Up until that point, one could only see the title. You could also not see the sidebar. Very odd!

Trying not to panic...

2009-10-22T01:24:00.000-07:00

So everything seems to have disappeared from the blog where I had posted a couple of short stories. It was just gone. Anyone want to click over to http://elainaavalosfiction.blogspot.com and see if my short story, Cups is still there? I don't know what's happened. I checked the Blogger Help blog and don't see any known issues at the moment.

Watch Over Me by Christa Parrish

2009-10-20T20:44:00.000-07:00

This week, the CFBA is featuring, Watch Over Me, the second novel by Christa Parrish. Her first book, Home Another Way, caught me off guard. Why? It was good. Fresh. And I was pleased to read a book that wasn't full of Christian cliché after cliché. Plus, she's a great writer.

Watch Over Me didn't disappoint. I'm a finicky, finicky reader when it comes to Christian fiction. I personally feel that much of it does not live up to its potential. Parrish's writing is not in this category. I did find that I became more emotionally wrapped up in her character's lives in this second book. I think there are a couple of reasons for this, beyond her compelling writing. But I'll get to that in a second.

Here is the description from the book's back cover:

Deputy Benjamin Patil is the one to find the infant girl--hours old, abandoned in a field. When the mother can't be located, Ben and his wife, Abbi, seem like the perfect couple to serve as foster parents. But the baby's arrival opens old wounds for Abbi and shines a harsh light on how much Ben has changed since a devastating tour in Iraq. Their marriage teeters on the brink and now they must choose to either reclaim what they once had or lose each other forever.

But beyond the beautifully written characters of Ben and Abbi is at least one secondary character who captured my heart. I would actually love to see another novel solely about him. I fell in love with Matthew and his notebook of scribbled words. For the first time in a long time, I was sad to see a book end, in part because of this sweet character.

All of Parrish's characters are real. Ben Patil is like so many other soldiers who have returned from the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. I do not feel like Parrish made light of those issues, paid lip service or glossed over the sacrifices made. I felt she also stayed well within realistic boundaries while depicting the Ben's most painful memory from his tour. I think the very raw pain of Abbi's close friend, whose husband deployed with Ben, and who basically disappeared from their lives, is also painfully realistic. And I admire Parrish for artfully depicting all sides of the coin.

For me, one of the biggest reasons I'll put down (and never pick back up) a book featuring a military story line in some form or fashion, is factual errors or simply unbelievable stories. I'm not above writing an author to let them know exactly how I feel about their errors either. And I have. But I feel that Parrish handled this aspect well. I will not deny that I struggled, in a way I didn't expect, to respect Abbi.

But that's my own bias based on my love for the Marine Corps and what they and all of our men and women in the uniform do. However, once I understood the main reason behind some of her actions, I found it a little easier to accept the tattooed, hippy-type, pacifist. :) Beyond Christa Parrish's treatment of PTSD and the struggles that many have on returning from war, was a story about restoration, commitment, love and family.

I can't tell you how much I appreciate Parrish's style and skill. I also love her ability to, for lack of a better phrase, push the envelope a bit when it comes to her characters and their actions. There was a sensuality in this novel, between Ben and Abbi, that is not often found in Christian novels. And that's sad. Ben and Abbi are married so why shouldn't that be found in a novel about a married couple? In addition, you feel as though it's okay to be real after reading this book.

So often after reading Christian fiction I actually feel discouraged. Discouraged because I'll never measure up to the image that the church sometimes tries to portray. Ben and Abbi were real. With real struggles. Both before Ben went to Afghanistan and after. Their faith didn't mean that everything was hunky, dory perfect. Abbi dealt with pain and a struggle that had followed her all her life. Ben fought his inner demons -- all the while pushing God, his wife and family away.

How often do you read a Christian book that portrays Christians that way? Not often. At least I haven't. Those problems tend to be saved for all those pesky non-Christians who are pre-salvation. But the dang truth is, Christians struggle with issues like Ben and Abbi. Christians hide from other Christians because they're afraid that who they really are will be found out or that they'll be judged.

I read the book and felt encouraged. I read and felt that there is hope at the end of the proverbial tunnel. Ben and Abbi's situation looked bleak. Their lives -- their marriage was in shambles. And yet, God restored them. What a beautiful message! On a purely entertainment level though, Parrish just writes a good book. Plain and simple. I did not want it to end. I highly recommend this book and I can't say that all that often.

You can buy it, HERE! You can visit Christa Parrish's website, HERE.

Questions about this review or how I received this book, please contact me at elaina.avalos at gmail dot com. Thanks!

Fall Colors Part Deux

2009-10-19T14:24:00.000-07:00

I got my wish. We went to Oak Glen, CA and I did in fact get to see some pretty leaves. It's quite pretty up there but I do not recommend going on the weekend. If you're going to go pick a weekday. There are just too many people. The shops and restaurants are just way too small for the crowds. I also do not recommend either of these restaurants: Apple Dumplin's (unless the place is deserted) and El Mexicano. Well, I shouldn't say that exactly.

If you go to El Mexicano do not order anything resembling a salad. There was about two inches of water in the bottom of my bowl, there was no "special dressing" on it as the menu said and it was like they took a house salad and threw a little chicken on top. Not even remotely appetizing. However, the staff was nice and they have a cute patio. The dude singing, was actually quite good. He did look a little like an ex-boyfriend which was slightly scary but other than that, he had a great voice. If you do try El Mexicano, get something that can't be dumbed down gringo style as well as they did the salad (It was like eating Mexican in NC. God forbid.). Like . . . a quesadilla or burrito.

But back to my point . . . I got to enjoy being in the mountains with beautiful pine trees and a smattering of leaves turning with my mom and sister in law. So in other words, it was worth it.

You can see my other photos from Oak Glen, here: http://www.flickr.com/photos/elainamarie

Project 365/6 -- Fall Colors

2009-10-17T18:39:00.000-07:00

At least in my neighborhood, these are the fall colors. Here: http://www.romanticasheville.com/fall_2009_photos.htm is the fall colors along the Blue Ridge Parkway in the Asheville, NC area. Kinda different, eh? I'm headed to Oak Glen: http://www.oakglen.net/farms.shtml on Sunday. I'm hoping to see some fall colors there. :)

Just wanted to share...

2009-10-14T10:50:00.000-07:00

One of the bloggers I follow, Georgia B, has posted a stunning three photo post that takes my breath away. It's so simple. So beautiful. Click here to visit Georgia's site. They so captivated me, I just had to share.

A face only a mama could love...

2009-10-13T23:19:00.000-07:00

Project 365/2

This is Vanilla. She is one of my Avalos Grandparent's four dogs. Four Chihuahuas to be exact. Vanilla is my favorite of the four. She is a sweetheart. I miss having a dog. Vanilla, Honey, Coco and Daisy (aka Daisy Mae) may not be the cutest dogs in the world (in my not so humble opinion). They certainly don't compare to my Brinca, but I gotta admit I've really enjoyed being around the lately. I miss that, I'm so excited to see you I'm going to jump up and down and run around in circles because it's just that dang exciting that you're home, kind of reception a dog gives you. I walked in the door today and they were all clamoring for attention (as if they don't get any) like I was the best thing since Snausages. At least someone is excited to see me. Ha.

Project 365 - Day One

2009-10-12T15:01:00.001-07:00

I tried participating in Flickr’s Project 365 project earlier this year but it quickly fell by the wayside. Why? Because I’m undisciplined that’s why. You’re so nosey. ;) But I’m trying again. And this time, besides posting on my Flickr, I’ll post the photos here.

Not sure if I’ll do a ton of blogging besides the photos and maybe a brief explanation of the photo. But we’ll see. So here we go:

Photo 1/365

I know, I know. It’s not the most thrilling photo to start out with. But I took it because of the sky. It’s a gloomy day here in So Cal and I LOVE it. Seriously. I love me some gloomy weather. This was one of the things that I could not wait to experience when I left the Land Of Perpetual Sunshine so many years ago.

Moving to the east coast was like a breath of fresh air. Literally. I cannot tell you how excited I was to live in places where it rained. All the time. I loved that I truly experienced snow and ice storms for the first time. And I loved that 62 degrees (like it is today) was NOT considered chilly. People are running their heaters here for goodness sakes. :)

So yes, it’s true. I love gloomy weather. There. I said it. You happy, now?

a new blog

2009-10-11T17:04:00.000-07:00

nope. i'm not kidding. i have a new blog. but this blog is different. and is basically following my path of reading the bible through over the next year. i started yesterday.

you can find my reason for doing this, here.

you can find the blog, here.

don't read it if you can't tolerate talk about faith and the bible. just sayin'.

A Slow Burn by Mary DeMuth

2009-10-01T18:25:00.001-07:00

Purchase A Slow Burn at Amazon.

I’m joining others, via Blog Tour Spot, on a blog book tour of Mary DeMuth’s latest in the Defiance Texas Trilogy. A Slow Burn is the second in the three part series about a small Texas town and a handful of its citizen's journey to redemption, hope and healing amidst the tragic kidnapping and murder of the young Daisy Chance.

In this second novel, told mostly from the perspective of Daisy’s mother, Emory, DeMuth deepens the mystery surrounding Daisy's murder. This has given me multiple people to suspect of the crime. I am already anxious for the release of the final novel which will be told from the perspective of another person in the town of Defiance, Texas -- Ouisie Pepper.

While the mystery surrounding Daisy’s murder deepens, DeMuth weaves throughout the pages, a story about one woman’s pain, regret and quest for forgiveness and of another’s unquenchable love for her. A Love that becomes more tangible to Emory through an unlikely source.

I, if I may be so bold, think this is DeMuth’s best novel so far. She has, with skill, illustrated the complexity of human emotion. She's also demonstrated what it's like for people who struggle with circumstances and each other. What do I mean by that? Well, I think life can be pretty complex. Relationships, our own personal struggles and people's battles with addictions aren't all one way or another. Emory has a drug problem and has made a long series of mistakes in her life. Yet, she's not comfortable in her state.

Sometimes, we make assumptions about why a person takes drugs and why they don't stop. I think the author has successfully demonstrated that even an addict, who takes time to get to her rock bottom, constantly battles herself and the voices that hold her in that addiction. Even Hixon, who loves Emory, must fight moments where he lacks the faith necessary to win Emory and the challenge to love someone who is surly and pushes people away. I greatly appreciate those that can weave that complexity and the seemingly contradictory moments in life and our emotions, into a book. DeMuth has done that.

I see a little of myself in Hixon, Emory, Jed and Ouisie. And I suspect that there are many Emory’s out there. Emory's who struggle to see their worth. Emory's who hope, in the same breath that they fear. Emory's who struggle to believe they're of value at the same time they long to be seen as valuable. The fear to let go and trust others and in a loving God is strong. Because the risk of hurt is great. Which makes it that much harder to just let go and trust. Mary DeMuth has artfully shown that push and pull and the black, white and gray's of life.

The author has taken her storytelling abilities to a new level in this book. The writing is clear and skillful. The story is suspenseful and the characters draw you in. While this book shares a message that is deeply moving, it’s also just . . . well . . . a darn good book. Outside of the pages flowing with redemption, forgiveness, love and hope is a story that will keep you turning the pages.

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To visit Mary’s website, go here.

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Like Ross & Rachel

2009-09-24T01:18:00.001-07:00

Yeah. Still on a blog break. But I have two posts over the coming week. The one below. And another regarding a book I think some of you might like. Otherwise, still on a break. Like Ross & Rachel. Except I’m not cheating with another blog.

Break

2009-09-16T10:52:00.001-07:00

I think I need to take a break from the blog. I’m not really sure how long it will last. Maybe a few days? Maybe longer? I don’t really know. I’m not really planning on putting any parameters around it. So why am I doing that? Every time I left myself get comfortable with an answer, a solution, an answer to prayer, the rug gets pulled out from under me. I don’t know what to believe or do right now.

So in order to try and hear what it is I’m supposed to be doing, in order to glean wisdom and in attempt to understand why I’m here and what I’m supposed to be doing with my life -- I’m going to quiet a few noisy distractions.

I deleted my Twitter account for one. No one listens to me there anyway. Haha. So it’s just another thing to mess with and often the negative voices (myself included) are louder than the positive. I end up checking it when I should be doing something else. The blog? If I’m going to write at all right now (if is the key word), it needs to be fiction. I need to continue to work on that.

I have to be honest though, I’m not giving up Facebook. Haha. Keeping in touch with my friends is important to me. As is playing silly, mindless FB games (yes, like Farm Town) that give me time to decompress amidst stressful circumstances.

I will likely continue to read my favorite writer/bloggers. Although . . . as soon as I finish writing this, I’m going to delete some bigger blogs (of people who don’t even have a clue who I am anyway) from my reader. Half the time, all reading those does is stir up negative emotions as they argue over politics or faith or whatever.

Why am I writing this post? Because all three (okay, four -- i read it too) of you who read this blog may wonder (I’m seriously resisting the urge to quote scenes from Top Gun right now. Several would apply.). In the past, I would just stop blogging because work got too busy, I was sick, I was dating someone (haha) and didn’t bother to explain my absence. I figured I would this time.

Anyway, long story longer . . . I’ve been in a constant state of confusion for awhile. Just when I get it figured out, *poof* everything gets blurred again. Sometimes, it’s good to quiet everything for awhile, you know? So that’s what I shall do.

Vaya con Dios . . .